“Can You Forgive Too Much?”

It was suggested for us bloggers to write about forgiveness  …Thank goodness…I have had to forgive only a few times…I’m not one to hold onto things that make me sad …hurtful things…I wonder sometimes if I forgive too much…or can you?…My husband says it’s that I don’t take up for myself…I let people use me and also let them do me wrong and then I go back for more…I tell him, “It’s just not worth it…to hold grudges…to hate …to dislike…to wallow in all that self-pity” …I assume people know when they deliberately hurt someone…by words or deeds …And this is not my problem…They have to deal with their own faults…their own harsh words…their own wrong doings…and I in turn have to take care of things I do wrong…I’m responsible for myself …I guess I forgive easily in that I try to see the situation at the time of the hurt…what is going on in that person’s life…what has their life been like even during past years that have caused them to react the way they do…I try to do what God   has told me to do…I will give each person I encounter the benefit of doubt …for the first few times…if that same situation occurs…then I can try to talk to that person  or at that time make a decision to be around them or not…Usually it never gets that far…but, that would be my way…Yes, I forgive easily…My life is short…I want it to be pleasant …I want it to be happy …I want it to have some meaning…if that means forgiving too much…I will! I will follow my heart on that! 

 

“My Kids!”…

Forgiveness usually comes with an “I’m Sorry!” I watch as my son and daughter-in-law go to great lengths at times to have their kids apologize…say their sorry for an unkind deed …If taught that …I believe a person can learn to forgive on their own…It will be a lesson learned…

At school, we as teachers of our special kids had encounters that required saying “I’m sorry” By them and sometimes by us…The hardest part I observed was the acceptance of the “I’m Sorry!”…please forgive me …It could be something said that was hurtful…name calling for instance…It could be an actual hitting  or tripping encounter that was done on purpose…Saying it was a joke …just didn’t hold water with me …I found the sooner the incident was addressed …the sooner forgiveness could be accepted…and the sooner the doer could think about what they had done …When things are let to festerdrag out …as they say…letting it go too long…time   has a way of making it harder and harder to forgive and be forgiven …So our kids were encouraged  to get the matter settled right then…none of that “later” business…and we seemed to keep a very pleasant atmosphere  most of the time…So I say, “Forgive quickly and often …Follow your heart …

                                        It can never be too much!”

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