To My Sister

We lost one of our family members yesterday…

My sister’s husband

He came into her life… I would say… in the perfect moment

She had lost her first husband through death… brain tumor/heart… leaving her and her six children to be on their own… k2473211

She was not alone… many family members embraced these kids and her…

Loving them with all of their heart…

They seemed to become part of my own …

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Four girls… two boys… ranging in ages… I’m guessing here… from one in the Marines… so maybe 19… no, there were two already married… so maybe 20 or so… to one in elementary school… so maybe 5… maybe not in school yet…

So you see… so young… to have a daddy taken away…

But, my sister is a strong woman…

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Working… making ends meet… staying in touch with her family and her Bert’s family…

Curtis came into her life with a grin… and a slight limp of a leg…

And we knew he had been smitten!… He adored her!

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and took on the responsibility of being a Dad as best he could with rebellious teens and a woman who had lost the love of her life… her first husband…

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Carolyn met Curtis  at a Parent’s Without Partners dance… They were held weekly… and at that time… it was just to get out and be around others her age…

They were married after about of a year of on again… off again…

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This would be a big decision on her part to make …

With six children… and a new man in her life…

Her mind was twirling…x25013794

But, they married… at one of her daughter’s homes… on Valentine’s Day

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Life has had so many directions… illnesses…kids…moving to a different home twice… his children accepting her…

But, it seemed their love began to grow more and more…

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The kids came to acceptt him as their Dad… and the grandchildren that came.. knew only him as their Papa

They clung to him… and loved him… with all of their being…

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Curtis has been a very sick man for most of their marriage…

but, my sister has tended to his every need…

He has had to have an amputation of a leg

heart trouble…and lately a lung disease and cancer

There are no words to describe all she has had to do…

A strong woman… an understatement for sure…

There will be no regrets that she did her best by both husbands…

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As a sister… we have talked much… we can get the day going through our conversations… no matter how hard!

As he lay dying in their home… she was still in charge

making arrangements that had to be completed… talking to everyone who came in to say good-bye…k9934085

Talking to Hospice help as they arrived…

He went quickly… surrounded by much love… and his wife… who had become his life

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Peace to you Curtis in your new life in Heaven

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and peace to you my sister… as you pull it up again… and become yourself again…

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Love,

Your Sister Marilyn

14 thoughts on “To My Sister

  1. Marilyn~ I was deeply saddened to hear about Curtis’s passing. Please tell Carolyn that I extend my deepest sympathy. He was such a nice man and I feel blessed for getting to meet him. It’s always so hard to lose loved ones, but it’s even harder to sit back and watch them suffer. May Curtis rest in peace and may Carolyn find the strength to help her through this difficult time in her life.
    God Bless Always,
    Andrea

  2. Marilyn, As I sit here with tears running down, that is a beautiful tribute from one special person to another special person. Love you both !!!

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  3. I send you all my love as I also sit here with tears running down my face. What love, what a tribute. Love to you all, as you all, especially Carolyn learn to live without this lovely man. xx

  4. I was so sorry to here about his passing. I had the opportunity to meet him a few times at some family gatherings. my prayers are with the entire family.

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