Palliative Care Meeting #2…

Palliative care (pronounced pal-lee-uh-tiv) is specialized medical care for people with serious illness. It focuses on providing relief from the symptoms and stress of a serious illness. The goal is to improve quality of life for both the patient and the family.

Palliative care is provided by a specially trained team of doctors, nurses, social workers and other specialists who work together with a patient’s doctors to provide an extra layer of support. It is appropriate at any age and at any stage in a serious illness and can be provided along with curative treatment.

 

This is what Bobby and I are going through…
We met with a team again today…

discussing our feelings…

our questions (concerns)…

our knowledge of what Bobby is experiencing with the cancer he has…

We discussed DNR… Do Not Resuscitate… k4969800

and some of Hospice Care…

We were told again that his cancer is terminal…k21223976

Not that you have a specific date of “death”…

but, that the cancer will take his life…

No matter how you take in those words…

you cannot actually breathe at that point…

your whole being is shouting from inside NO!…

Don’t say those words!…

We look at each other reaching for each others hand…k13560373

The tears come to my eyes… and roll down my cheeks…

I am grasping the words…

but, so wish I wasn’t!…

They ask us questions… and we relate again to this group of professionals that “we are our own team”…

Have been for 47 years… and will continue to be until our last breath is drawn…

They seem amazed at our truthfulness with each other…

our way of thinking and coping with this news…

We have always discussed everything together… so we wonder why others find it hard to believe of how open we are on the subject of death…

but…

isn’t death a part of life???

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Bobby explains his “ring” (circle) scenario… a beginning that travels around until it meets it’s self again… k7533959 …

a continuum of a life we committed to each other many years ago…

Bobby expresses his Faith… in that he always asks God to forgive him of any transgressions when praying… He wants forgiveness before he asks anything for himself and others…

His desire is to please his Savior…

I express to the Pastor that is the last to see us… that “God” is beside me all  of the time… but, when we speak to Him out loud… in prayer… together…

we feel His Presence and Strength … lasting and protecting us from thoughts and words that hurt us…

We are as ONE!…

The Son, The Father , The Holy Spirit and Us!…

and through this relationship that we have formed

we will sustain…

we will be brave…

we will comfort others as they comfort us…

Our Lord will keep us in His Hand as He does anyone who believes…

Praying before we leave with a servant of the Lord was a good ending of our meeting…

 

 

 

 

 

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6 thoughts on “Palliative Care Meeting #2…

  1. Dear Marilyn & Bobby,

    I know this Cancer journey far to well with my mother and father. Your words hit home. My mother to this day misses my dad, but after 60 years of marriage how could you not. The love and memories of a life time will remain forever. Just like you and Bobby your love for one another will never fade. Both Harris and I send our love and prayers during this difficult time. If you need us don’t hesitate to call.

    Love, hugs and friendship always,
    Andrea & Harris

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