Don’t LIKE “IT”!

Continued from…

https://babyjill7.wordpress.com/2017/05/10/va-hospitals-other-favorite-saying-just-go-to-emergency-room/

We have talked to Doctor (Oncology) … and head nurse of same department where Bobby gets his Chemo Treatments…

After looking at him and discussion…

Chemo is suspended for a couple of weeks… to give his body time to heal…

That sounds funny to me…”time to heal”…when the Chemo is supposed to be trying to heal this Cancer!…

but, evidently the mix up on mixing the chemo drugs… …was the culprit…

He is feeling slightly better…

Eyes still running some along with nose and other areas… but, “better”…

Taste is coming back…

Tips of fingers are so raw…

suggested soaking in Selsun Blue Shampoo…

{Selenium: An essential mineral that is a component of an antioxidant enzyme, glutathione reductase, that is key in tissue respiration.}

YES!… what you use for dandruff… and what he has ben using for his dryness caused by Chemo drug…

Learning every day…

A scan will be given before next treatment … and then talk with Doctor and back to regular treatments if all is a “go!”…

I want to say both Doctor “Robin” and Head Nurse “Kristen”… were there for us today…

giving great care and concern in getting to bottom of problem…

I know “WE” want immediate answers…

“WE” want our priorities met!…

“WE” want this to NOT be happening…

Making us frustrated … 

impatient…

 

worried…

heart broken…

and if truth be known…

JUST WANT THIS NOT TO BE!…

 

 

 

 

VA Hospital’s “Other” Favorite Saying!… “Just go to Emergency Room!”…

Been a couple of rough weeks …

Bobby doing OK with new chemo drug added to other two he was already on…

Breaking out of the skin … main culprit…

but, even that … He accepted and kept going…

Trying as hard as he could to adjust…

He ALWAYS pulls it up and looks for what his capabilities are… with the extra side effects…

BUT…

He started what seemed to be sinus… allergies… with eyes…

Gave him allergy meds that were prescribed…

Used Netty Pot to clear nose and drainage… etc. …

BUT…

got worse…

Eyes running …

Nose running…

and gooey stuff appearing around eyes…

Some blood even appearing…

RED… Very Blood Shot eyes…

went to Eye Doctor at VA hospital who had done his cataract and eye lift procedures…

and they were very nice at fitting him in on a busy day…

“We just showed up!”…

Found this works sometimes…

The eye Doctor was puzzled…

He saw no infection…

and… conferred with another Doctor…

which immediately said…, “The chemo was causing this…”… Had seen several times…

Collects around eyes … causing swelling… running…etc. …

also clogs ducts…

Drops were given and redness has disappeared…

but, still crusting… running… and looks awful!…

and now nose doing same…

around mouth some…

and “private part” being effected also…

NOT GOOD!…

although not a lot of pain…

just very miserable…

When we went for treatment a week ago Wednesday…

we were surprised with a visit from the pharmacy who mixes his chemo…

and they reported that his chemo drug with some others…

had been mixed with an alcohol based water which was a NO NO!…

and had been given to him several times…

I immediately related the problems that had arisen in the past couple of weeks…

and they took notes and were going to check on this…

Also his Chemo Drugs were not coming from Cincinnati, Ohio… but, Indianapolis, Indiana now…

That put ??? in my head also…

As of today…

still suffering …

Talked to Nurse in  Hospice Department at VA Hospital last night… trying to connect with someone…

she said, “Sounds like body is trying to exit something

… by the secretions… and keep an eye on urination… due to kidneys being affected…

Emergency Room advised…

Made phone call to Oncology Department and even rode over to VA Hospital … but, to no avail…

Need to discuss with other doctors and will get back with us…

Advising him to go to Emergency Room if continues … but, could see him Friday…

Last time to Emergency Room… after 4 visits and also talking to clinic…

“He was diagnosed with Cancer”… and had a small heart attack…

a little late!…

If he hadn’t started urinating… which had ceased somewhat… We would be up the creek…

Another disappointing treatment from the VA Hospital again…

Felt we were not dealt with in a way we should have…

“BUSY” or not…

but, then my Bobby’s life is at stake… NOT there’s!…

to be continued…

 

Don’t Judge Others By What Is Important To You!

Came to me this morning…

It’s easy to see in others what you do not like…

what you do not agree with…

what you do differently than them…

what things are important to them… are not what is important to you…

You can’t just place an “IMPORTANT  stamp on things YOU like!…

how they care for their kids… 

how they clean their homes…

how they keep their yard…

how they live in general…

BUT…

Is that “my business”?…

Is it for me to “judge them and their ways”?…

Is it for me to expound to them the “way” I would do things?…

Is “my way” better?…

This is my dilemma…

Living in proximity to those who treat me well…

have befriended me…

have said… “I admire you”…

“I care about you”…

“You have taught me so many things”…

“You are so kind”…

“I love you”…

I have come to the conclusion…

I will have to accept this relationship…

as part of my learning…

and in return make it a “teaching moment’…

“Show by example” seems to be the answer I am getting…

Show kindness…

Show humility…

Show acceptance…

Kindness in doing what I am able to do…

Humility… Freedom from PRIDE and Arrogance… “Be humble”…

Acceptance of “other’s ways”…

and the biggest lesson I have learned…

“Do not talk of others of things you cannot discuss openly with them!”…

God places lessons in our hearts at times…

Take heed!…

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-the-questions/201410/10-reasons-stop-judging-people

and…

Don’t Judge Others By What Is Important To You!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

West Baden Is Always Worth The Ride!

On our way up to French Lick, Indiana the other day we followed this truck until it reached it’s destination of a company that makes furniture…

The scenery was farm country and small quaint towns…

 

We stopped at this little country/family friendly restaurant we had discovered earlier on one of our rides…

The friendliest people eat here… mostly farmers in the surrounding area… and their wives/family…

As we ordered and ate (the BEST friend green tomatoes)…

I got into a conversation with one of the locals who used to farm in this area…

Wife has passed and children have moved away… but, he still resides here and loves it…

He gave me directions to a mill that was close…

making me wonder… “is this the sawmill that the truck we followed had come from?”…

very likely!…

probably in his 80’s… was a pleasure to talk to…

 

We arrived at WEST BADEN/French Lick … about 25 minutes later…

Sharon had never seen this wonderful West Baden Springs Hotel that had been a favorite of gangsters in it’s hayday…

Rich in decor and history…

 

The rotunda is just awesome…

the huge fireplace is so beautiful….

 

Stained glass adorns many of the windows… in the hotel…

 

The wrap-around porch is wonderful… with rocking chairs to accommodate you with a peaceful sit!…

 

The massiveness of the rotunda area is a sight to see…

 

Our friend… Sharon… my sister Carolyn, Bobby and I enjoyed our day!

We made our way over to the French Lick Hotel/Casino to play awhile…

and we did enjoy watching the people… and having fun…

The grounds here are just as lovely…

We ate at another local restaurant for dinner…

(many stores and eating places have emerged since we first found this nice spot)…

A few days later… we got an invite with a FREE ROOM … in the mail…

which Bobby and I will take advantage of…

Might even ride the train from the French Lick Scenic Rail Way that is available…

an 1-3/4 hour ride through the Hoosier Forest and scenic area…

 

Summer Has Begun!

 

Our “neighbor Grass Cutter” is back at it again…

I tell him, “You lucked out during the winter… no snow… so NO shoveling!”…

He took it upon himself to cut our grass after finding out Bobby’s diagnosis of terminal cancer…

(by the way!… it has been one year!… and he is doing good…)… YEAH!!!

and we have become good friends and neighbors as well…

As grandparents themselves…

they have taken on the role of parenting their Grandson who is “special”… autism and visually impaired…

Good folk!…

Refusing payment…

I came up with making a dessert once a week for the family to share…

It seems to be welcomed…

The first time this year was VERY hot…

so Bobby took Jim 2 mini Bud Lights…  … that we keep in the fridge…

Sometimes a cold beer is good when it’s hot… or with something you are eating like pizza or fish…

this worked fine!…

Day 2 of grass cutting was the day before Easter…

I made mini cheesecakes decorated a little for Easter…

 

I hear that their little Grandson said, “These are just for me!”……

Probably because they had cherries on the top and he LOVES cherries…

This week I made Cranberry/Orange Breads…

 

two for them and a small one for us…

This is therapeutic for me… and a way to show our appreciation…

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Our “Glider” is the focal point of our front yard…

A place to rest and gather with neighbors/friends…

I painted the glider a brown to match the Adirondack chairs we have…

after Bobby added a few new screws…

He then laid Bricks at front of glider to keep grass from wearing down…

planted grass seed… and then tried it out!…

 

“Excellent” job as always!…

With the big tree shading this area most of the day…

it’s our little sanctuary!…

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Flowers are budding…

Bushes we bought are taking hold…

seeds planted that I bought and even my neighbors have handed me some to scatter…

   

My youngest neighbor… planted me some “surprise” ones…

can’t wait!…

I did buy two ferns … one for the light pole in front and one for our Tire Parrot hanging in tree in back…

   

When Bobby was digging to place the bricks… another neighbor brings him new gloves to protect his hands…

and a bowl of her fresh lettuce just picked and two “HUGE” strawberries…

Don’t you know “I love it!”…

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Our ditch that runs behind our house has been in need of cleaning for “YEARS!”… and finally after complaining and making many phone calls it is being dug out…

4 feet of dirt had to be removed to reach bottom…

     

“THINK IT NEEDED IT?”

The water is now running freely and not just sitting there to stagnate…

Summer is already busy…

and WE LOVE IT!

 

Easter… TREATS for my LOVES!

I had decided on mini desserts when asked to bring dessert for Easter Dinner…

      

Dark Chocolate Fudge mini cupcakes… SPRING Funfetti mini cupcakes and mini cheesecakes…

I had bought this Spring Flower Tiered Cake Stand for 50 cents during one of my Thrift Shopping days…

and it worked perfect for what I had in mind…

Kennedy (youngest Granddaughter) placed desserts on it when I arrived at their house…

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I was also asked to bring Deviled Eggs…

and don’t mind since I learned how peel boiled eggs with a teaspoon…

I cut eggs in half lengthwise…

Mix egg yolks with mayo, mustard, sweet relish and a bit of grated onion…

Place in a plastic bag … cut small opening… and squeeze into white of egg…

a sprinkle of Paprika and they are done…

Although I added a few Easter picks to desserts and eggs to make for a more festive look…

   

and the last of my contributions was Sister Schubert’s Parker House Rolls that are Kennedy’s favorite!

Melanie and Pam had made:

Baked Ham

Potato Salad

Broccoli Salad

Baked Beans

another kind of roll

Marshmallow Fluff Salad…

WONDERFUL!

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I always color a few eggs…

More for me than anyone else…

aklthough the guys do like me to do it…

I had purchased 3 coloring kits… for 25 cents each on one of my hunts…

Decided to make the 24k Gold ones…

       

Eggs boiled… cooled… and dried…

until Bobby (husband) comes in the house and grabs the towel I had wrapped eggs in to dry… off of the table…

and the eggs flew…

hit the floor and cracked…

My mouth flew open…

and I have to admit I was peeved!…

but, knowing he couldn’t have known…

my thoughts ran to making deviled eggs first since they were just cracked a little (ALL OF THEM!)…

and make more for coloring later…

   

The gold is sponged on after the eggsare dyed bright colors…

quite pretty!

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These are “my loves” I make things for …

and this year it was Easter Baskets…

YES!…

I got them at the end of season last year for little or nothing…

with them in mind…

Pink for Kennedy… Blue for the boy (Carson)… and Yellow for Taylor

   

Carson was excited to find a little money in the two larger eggs… as well as the girls…

 

This is what makes me smile… thinking of them as I cook and make treats …

A Good Easter!

Signs of this Holy Day!…

I am up at 3:00am…

Jill… my cat didn’t even wake me…

I went to sleep early after a long day…

so I imagine that is why…

Of course my Bobby finds me…

and asks, “Why are you so quiet?”…

I answer…”I certainly didn’t want to wake you with a lot of noise!”…

but, sometimes “the quiet” is louder than we realize!…

I was reading a blogging friend’s posts…

I have neglected reading my sweet blogger’s writings…

My mind has been off-balance…

too much thinking going on…

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Yesterday… “Easter Sunday”…

started with a slow rain…

 

We were going to a nephew’s church  that he pastors…

First time visiting and listening to him “preach” God’s word  …

His church is across the River into Indiana…

Not a long drive… 30 minutes …

The sky changed often during this short ride…

We were greeted with such genuine love and hospitality…

I noticed coffee and a few sweets offered… on a table…

Inviting…

My Great-great niece greeted all that come in the door with a pamphlet of the day’s service…

Her mother (Great-niece)… would be singing with the music group…

with wonderful songs of Praise…

and then her Dad… came with hugs… and smiles showing us he was glad that we came…

His wife… a sweet petite young woman was so gracious…

We were greeted by most of the church members as we had a moment of welcoming all…

My nephew came out… relaxed in his position as the Leader of this small congregation…

and introduced himself… 

and then prayed a welcoming prayer for God to enter into fellowship with all who were there…

I liked that!…

The lights dimmed… and a display made by a fellow member to represent the tomb that Jesus arose from…

was accented with light… as others rolled back the rock from the entrance…

A simple visual that represented that Glorious Day of God’s Gift to us… His son…

that we could have Everlasting Life…

 

My nephew’s words and the songs sung… were so inspiring…

and Believers felt the pull of their heart-strings with the wonderful selfless gift that they have experienced…

When… emotions come through with your followers…

a Pastor should be pleased that his expression of God’s words came through…

that they had an impact on the congregation…

and this was so yesterday…

in a small church…

with a group that has Faith…

and so generously let us be a part of…

With sincere hugs and good-byes…

we headed home as a gusty wind blew and rain pounded the Earth with a downpour…

and just as quick it subsided as we crossed back into Kentucky…

as sunshine made the Earth sparkle anew…

We knew Jesus had Risen!