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Daily Prompt: Forgive and Forget?

Share a story where it was very difficult for you to forgive the perpetrator for wronging you, but you did it — you forgave them.
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Oh, this is a touchy one…

I don’t know if you can say I was actually wronged… or just how I perceived things

I’ve only felt hurt in my life… by some things that my siblings have said… and some things they didn’t say

Being the youngest… I was always considered to be the “baby”  of the family

When I was small that was great!… but, when I started to grow up…

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Finished school…

Had several jobs…

Married…

Had kids of my own…

Dealing with problems…

Dealing with heartache…

I was still considered to be too young to make decisions at times… well, it seemed to me… all of the time…

My Mom chose to come and live with me when she felt she needed more help

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I had a child with a mental disability… bipolar disorder… but, thought… we would give it a try for her sake

She lived with my family for five years

and only had one incident with my son and his problem…

I thought that was awesome…

He watched my Mom when I had to work…

Cooking for her… getting her things… having conversations… their relationship grew!ama0002

My Mom  decided that he should get paid a little for helping her while I worked… An amount was set…  This only was done for a few months until she fell and went into a nursing facility

I could tell this was not liked by my siblings…

I was receiving money once a month too…

Mom’s decision again when she moved in with us…

During this time my husband was laid off from work for over a year…

So the extra was helping…

As I continued to work… My husband and son became the caregivers of my Mom… Not bathing and such…

but, looking after her during the day…

No one could have been more decent and caring…

My little family was changed during this time

My time was spent on Dr. appointments… bathing… food preparation… washing/drying clothes… medicine regiment… hair appointments… friends that came for coffee and snacks every day… dishes that were always in my sink… The extras you purchase for food, drinks, gasoline, trips here and there, having a listening ear, always having to be home when others were having fun…

I had made this commitment... but, my son and husband were committed too…

Our life was on hold…

I said my Mom was selfish one time… after she had left my home and had to be put in a nursing home…

I was hollered at in my facespoke to with anger I had never had to deal with… and told not to speak of Mother in that way ever again!…

She was mine… my Mom too… and I had her when others were going on with their lives… and had learned many things …

I only had meant that we… as her kids… should be able to have an evening for some fun without feeling guilty about Mom not seeing us for one night…

I left on that accord and went home…

I couldn’t even think that after all I had done… that these words could be uttered to me…

words of anger… that cut like a knife from someone I loved with all of my heart!k9136879

We hugged later and this incident was never spoken of between us…k15702821

I also have another sibling… who for some reason… doesn’t choose to love me the way I would like to be loved…

I have tried with all my heart to be nice… be caring… sending and making invitations that were never acted on…

I would send small gifts at Christmas for all of the family… I would try to remember birthdays and special events… making every attempt to go to anything I was invited to…

but, I still feel… I’m just not the person who they can be close to…

This hurts so deeply…

Being that I know I am a good person… I would be a good sister…

Well, I can’t write any more… tears are falling…

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My husband says I let people hurt me too much…

That I forgive too much…

That I will always be the one who turns the other cheek…

and he is right…

for I believe LOVE is stronger than anything… and I will have no regrets in treating others with respect… care… and continued yearning for a relationship that will probably never be…k11999706

Do I forgive and forget?     k15204576   k0286681

Matthew 6:14-15 King James Version (KJV)

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

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“Love of God”

Gift…

As I read the poem  I wrote about God‘s Love… it reminds me of Easter  … God’s true love was his son, Jesus… who He knew had been born for redemption of our sins… What a burden He had to have had… to finish what He knew He had to do to get His people back in His grace… As that day approached… I know He had to be in agony… and when He heard His son asking,  “Is there any other way?”   He must have felt as if his heart was breaking… His will had to be done… He had to sacrifice such a precious being… But, as the day of resurrection  came after such a tormenting time… How ecstatic He must have been!… I remember my Salvation… Oh, what a burden was lifted as I felt the Spirit of God come into my body… I couldn’t praise   Him enough… So if I get discouraged… if I get sad… if I get lonely… I draw on that Special Day… to keep me walking straight… to keep me smiling… to keep me having faith… I thank you Lord for that day! … That you saw me as a special child of yours … ready to return to You with Hope again!

Love of God” 

The Love that God has given-

Comes to us so free-

It will never be taken-

It’s for you, as well as me.

“He” loves us all-

Yellow, Black or White-

Whether big or small-

“His” love is just right!-

“He” came from above-

To set us all free-

With abundance of love-

“He” will always be!

Just open your heart-

Let “Him” come in-

“He’ll” never depart-

Always a friend!

“He’ll” stay by your side-

Lifting you high-

Even when pride-

Has made you cry!

God’s love is so dear-

You’ll feel it inside-

And it will keep-

Your arms opened wide!

For those who in need-

That you see every day-

You’ll be able to plead-

For them as you pray!

For forgiveness of sin

For those that are lost-

Their hearts can mend-

Through the “One” on the cross!

Jesus… He’s the “One”-

Who died for our sins

“He” said, “It’s done!”-

The love of God wins!

By: Marilyn Kay Griffin – July 10, 1983 -mkg

“Complete Humility”

Gift…

You know the best thing about having friends and family … the encouragement they give… And to do that… they have to listen to you… I can tell when someone really listens … really cares… and is looking out for my best… They have a sincerity about them… giving me their total attention … answering my questions without condemnation… offering advice in a kind way… It is such a wonderful feeling to have these certain people in my life… I could name them… but, I believe they already know who I’m speaking of… I try to be this kind of friend , acquaintance, or family member… I get tips from all over… You notice acts of goodness… acts of caring and acts of kindness … Don’t you just love to have that feeling surrounding you! I do!… My findings are that these wonderful people have hardships that they are enduring or have overcome… These people have had a taste of what grace  is all about… These people have God in their heart … Sometimes I don’t think they even know they do…but, it’s there and just waiting for them to activate it!… Bowing your head… asking forgiveness… and acceptance of all that wonderful presence Jesus gives us … I think people have such difficulty in this concept… because it is so simple … so unselfish… so free!… I just want to express my gratitude to all have given me a part of that complete humility…

Thank you Jesus… 

Are You True to Yourself?

What does it mean “To Stay True to Yourself?” A question that was brought up by fellow bloggers at WordPress.com… So I am going to attempt to answer as truthfully and simply as I can…

“To Stay True to Myself’  means I can live with my decisions… I can live with my answers to questions presented to me…I can live with the advice I give because I try to think it through, and come back if my thoughts were not clear or misunderstood… I can live with myself, because I will quickly apologize  if impelled that I was wrong… I can live with myself, in that it is best for the circumstances… I can live with myself with a clear conscience  … I can live with myself with that feel good feeling within my heart … I can live with myself in that I explain “Why”   I have to do something and am strongly compelled to do it… I can live with myself, in that it doesn’t leave damage to those arround me… That I can live with myself to help those in need …That I can live with myself to always offer “Love”   instead of hatred…That I can live with myself in that I try to see all sides… putting myself in the other’s position or frame of mind… By “Staying True to Myself”  I have to follow God‘s Will” sometimes not mine…sometimes hard… sometimes not right in other’s eyes… but, if I didn’t follow His direction  I would definitely “NOT Be Truthful to Myself” … and my life would lose all meaning…I CHOOSE to Stay True to Myself … How about YOU?

“My Kids!”…

Judy and I became friends after my second year at TJ Middle School…We were both assistants to teachers who taught Special Ed kids … Each day before school started we had about 15 minutes of free time… This was our coffee- breakfast- catch up time- family /school discussion time … We could get more settled in this short length of time than people with days, months or years … It was therapy for us…we were each other’s sounding boards…and we stayed close even after she had left TJ …had a class of her own for about one year… and after she was striken with a stroke that left her body paralyzed  on the left side… I remember I mailed a card or a note every week for over a year… called and talked after she was able …and kept in touch at least every month after that… She moved to Nolin River area , Clarkson, KY …and we made a few visits for her Chili get-together in the Fall … Her husband built a handicapped assessable house for her…and all seemed to be going pretty well…Then she called me with the news!… She had stomach cancer… To the hospital I went… She went home , only to return to the hospital again… This time, home was with the care of the organization called Hosparus … An aide to help her with her personal needs Monday – Friday and the nurse  for her medical needs on Wednesdays…Weekends on their own… “Their” meaning her husband and her… So as of last Thursday I am staying with her where he can have a break with their daughter and family in Florida  … and today which is Saturday and Sunday we are on our own …We seem to be doing fine… I will take care of her needs until Wednesday next week… “Staying True to Myself” by helping a friend in need … and as I have found… only benefits myself…by knowing I’m doing what is right “How good that can feel!”

“Can You Forgive Too Much?”

It was suggested for us bloggers to write about forgiveness  …Thank goodness…I have had to forgive only a few times…I’m not one to hold onto things that make me sad …hurtful things…I wonder sometimes if I forgive too much…or can you?…My husband says it’s that I don’t take up for myself…I let people use me and also let them do me wrong and then I go back for more…I tell him, “It’s just not worth it…to hold grudges…to hate …to dislike…to wallow in all that self-pity” …I assume people know when they deliberately hurt someone…by words or deeds …And this is not my problem…They have to deal with their own faults…their own harsh words…their own wrong doings…and I in turn have to take care of things I do wrong…I’m responsible for myself …I guess I forgive easily in that I try to see the situation at the time of the hurt…what is going on in that person’s life…what has their life been like even during past years that have caused them to react the way they do…I try to do what God   has told me to do…I will give each person I encounter the benefit of doubt …for the first few times…if that same situation occurs…then I can try to talk to that person  or at that time make a decision to be around them or not…Usually it never gets that far…but, that would be my way…Yes, I forgive easily…My life is short…I want it to be pleasant …I want it to be happy …I want it to have some meaning…if that means forgiving too much…I will! I will follow my heart on that! 

 

“My Kids!”…

Forgiveness usually comes with an “I’m Sorry!” I watch as my son and daughter-in-law go to great lengths at times to have their kids apologize…say their sorry for an unkind deed …If taught that …I believe a person can learn to forgive on their own…It will be a lesson learned…

At school, we as teachers of our special kids had encounters that required saying “I’m sorry” By them and sometimes by us…The hardest part I observed was the acceptance of the “I’m Sorry!”…please forgive me …It could be something said that was hurtful…name calling for instance…It could be an actual hitting  or tripping encounter that was done on purpose…Saying it was a joke …just didn’t hold water with me …I found the sooner the incident was addressed …the sooner forgiveness could be accepted…and the sooner the doer could think about what they had done …When things are let to festerdrag out …as they say…letting it go too long…time   has a way of making it harder and harder to forgive and be forgiven …So our kids were encouraged  to get the matter settled right then…none of that “later” business…and we seemed to keep a very pleasant atmosphere  most of the time…So I say, “Forgive quickly and often …Follow your heart …

                                        It can never be too much!”

“Do You Meet My Expectations?”

I have very high Expectations of people…There are certain things I expect …I cannot and will not accept anything less…that sounds so harsh when writing it down…and maybe it is!…I can’t tolerate laziness …I expect people to at least try to do something…I know we all are not here on Earth to do the same things…but, I do think we are here to fulfill an act of some kind…I can’t tolerate not accepting people for who they are…We all are so different in our heritage, backgrounds, neighborhoods , people we have been around, things that were taught us, relationships  , events in our lives, things we believe …This is why I say so much…”Watch judging others” …you can have an opinion…but, try to found out something about where that person has been or what that person is going through…I can’t tolerate the neglect of our children…no matter what they have done…we need to love them until it hurts…and it certainly does sometimes…who else do they have??? They are a part of us and no one can understand, forgive, accept, be so fulfilled with love for them like us…I can’t tolerate people who complain, complain, complain…verbally, but take no real action to improve the situation or change what they feel so strongly about…our leaders  might be an example…then vote!  our neighborhood concerns…then make a phone call and at least complain to someone who might have some influence on the problems you observe…an injustice you have witnessed… tell someone…where it can be taken care of…I could go on and on about what I can’t tolerate…but, the things I can tolerate are caring, thoughtfulness, peacefulness  , happiness, contentment, forgiveness and LOVE…and with these things, my high Expectations might be met and my tolerance of certain things may become tolerable…  

“MY KIDS!”…

As I worked in the school system, I came along some things that I disliked and some things that I loved!…My likes probably would overrun the dislikes…thank goodness! I can say most of the people I worked with were very caring, understanding, accepting and likable…some even lovable! I guess you could say,”I more than tolerated them !” I respected them…They were what I call genuine…what you saw is what you got …we could all be ourselves with each other…we accepted each other for who we were…our different backgrounds  , beliefs, relationships…so this was tolerable!…We all had the same things as goalsteach, improve, grow, nourish, accept our kids disabilities, listen to parents and treat others as we would like to be treated… That is all that “MY KIDS!” asked, “Will you treat me like I am worthy, treat me like I am a real person with feelings, treat me like you would your good friends, treat me like you yourself would like to be treated”…and WE will tolerate YOU…as we keep OUR Expectations high…

The “Golden Rule” has been attributed to Jesus of Nazareth: “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them” (Matthew 7:12, see also Luke 6:31). The common English phrasing is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.