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Another “Bobby”- Friendships- “Lasts”

My sleep pattern is out of whack!…

wanting to go to bed early…

and then waking at 3:30 or so wide awake…

so… I just go with the flow…

Get up… fix me a cup of hot coffee or sweet hot tea…

My Jill (cat) loves this… She has me all to herself…

It has been a pleasant week…

Bobby and I got to the YMCA … him to walk…  and me to do my water aerobics…

I know the exercise is good for both of us…

The neuropathy in Bobby’s feet is not fun when he does this… but, feels he needs to try…

I love the water!…

Relaxing…

can do things I would never do on a hard surface…

clears my mind as I talk to fellow water companions…

The time change is probably what really messed me up…

On Tuesday… a movie with my sister… “The Shack”…

I had read the book years ago

we enjoyed it very much…

and then Bob Evans for lunch…

Cold day… so we opted for coffee as soon as we sat down…

and soup/chili with a shared salad…

JUST RIGHT!…

Banana Bread accompanied our lunch which I chose to eat later at home…

A quick visit to our sister-in-law, nephew and niece…

A nice day to have some “sister time”…

We have a nephew that is a pastor at a church in Indiana… Just across the River…

As soon as Bobby was diagnosed with terminal cancer…

He asked “this Bobby”  if he would do his funeral…

His words were, “I would be honored!”…

It has now been almost a full year since we had discussed this…

with my Bobby is still here by my side…

“Bobby” is also our nephew’s name…

and he came for lunch this week…

I have found easy is the best policy

so I ordered BBQ/buns, mac/cheese, slaw and baked beans from our local BBQ place Shack In The Back”…

It was delicious!…

and with the peach upside down cake I did make…

we ate and talked for two hours…

We talked of old times…

Have know “Bobby” since he was a teen…

We talked of things that have happened in each other’s lives…

Although we are older…

we have all grown…

“My Bobby”… was left with a Peace that someone who knows him personally will be taking care of this need in his life…

and that is a “good thing!”…

WE talk of all aspects of this trial that has been given us…

What he wants…

what I might do… or “have” to do!…

We share everything…

To top off the week I met a good friend since High School… over 50 years… for lunch…

We pick a place for lunch about once a month…

and talk for hours …

Good Friends are awesome!…

We went to Mimi’sFrench food and atmosphere…

An orange/tangerine Mimosa sounded good to me and was REALLY good!…

Quiche Lorraine with a fresh salad was also the best!…

also a Banana/Chocolate Chip Muffin…VERY BIG!…

which i took home to enjoy later…

I had a coupon from the internet for either muffins or Birthday Crepe Cake…

I was bringing it home for my guys to split… so…

they said “CAKE!”…

It was excellent…

So fresh and tasty!…

would highly recommend!…

Our little waitress was so friendly and attentive…

We talked about our 50th Class Reunion coming up this October…

She is on the committee… making booklets… name tags… and video…

Looking forward to it… because it will probably be our last reunion…

There are always “lasts”…

whether something eaten… “all gone”I would tell my boys…

whether it was the last day of school… we would just be ready to “jump for joy”…

last day of year…

last drop…

 

last supper…

whether it was the last day of vacation and heading home…

and we would be a little let down

but, honestly we were tired and ready for “home”…

and so it will be… when our last days here on Earth come…

We loved the ride… with all of the ups/downs… but, “Home” looks pretty good…

I hope my Bobby can understand this…

A Heavenly Home … awaits all that have come to Jesus…

and what a Glorious Day that will be!…

 

45 Years Today!

Have you ever yearned for days gone by…

I had that feeling for a little while this morning…

The time I met my husband…

Oh, what care free days they were…k5365333

young…

working… having your own money…

no actual commitments…

dating and having that wonderful feeling of love in your tummy… I call it a butterfly feeling…

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smiles on faces…

hand holding…

sweet kisses… u11968839

thoughts of a world that could not get better!

Kinda brings a tear to the eye… the love that wells up inside of you for that special person!…

I am so fortunate to have had “my love” for 45 years as of today…

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Married in a small church… Blissfully thinking of a life together

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thoughts of children, home, and everlasting happiness…

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I am lucky I guess… that even though we’ve had ups and downs…WE ourselves… have remained best friends… lovers… parents… grandparents and shared all together!…

We had a “Special Song” that still holds true today!…

“Love You More Today Than Yesterday”… by the Spiral Starecase!

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This morning … we hugged and kissed… holding each other for a while

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Remembering those days of youthful dreams

Knowing we still have the same feelings…

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Real Friends

Walking together

Lily Mugford

A fellow blogger I follow “Lily Mugford“… posted this blog and photograph

It got my mind stirring as to… who are “My Real Friends” ???…

and as I contemplate …

I believe there are different groups for friends…

There are friends (true… real…) that have been there ever since you met them

You might not see each other every day…

talk every day…

but, if you decided to get in touch… they would open their arms to greet you and be glad!…k9896399 and some how keep in touch!

There are true friends that I have that are also “relatives”… so close… they know your inner thoughts u16413070as well as what you show to the outside world…

Love… love… love these friends…nri0123

I have neighborly friends

They sit and talk about a lot of things… a couple of times a week… but, keep a distance to a certain extent…nri0107

Not wanting you to come in too far…

I do this too!…

You have acquaintance friends

People you might see at different clubs you belong to… or have worked with…

talk about lots of things againk11964578but, there is still that little thin wall that keeps you from becoming “true friends”…sca0393

Social media friends… I do call you my friend!…and I feel I know a lot about some of you… but…k13661731

I still believe I would have to actual meet you in person to really get to know you and then maybe we would become true friends!… probably a lot of you!u19077096

That’s OK… When true friends are meant to be

all barriers are pulled down… your heart opens k10072213 … and love enters… k6794719

We are a strange lot… us humans… with all of our feelings… past experiences... lifestylesentwined… k12371025

Do some of these things keep you from making friends???

or do you just give yourself freely to all who come into your life…k3953177

How I Grew Up…

Memory…

This is copied from an email I received from a friend… It touched me in that it described how I grew up… Maybe you will find similarities too…

I grew up with practical parents. A mother, who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the original recycle queen, before they had a name for it… ( Mom actually did this… even the styrofoam ones)… A father who was happier getting old shoes  fixed than buying new ones. ( I remember riding with him to the shoe repair man to get new soles put on his shoes up at a little shopping center not too far from our house)…

Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. (Both of my parents had been married before… Mom bringing two children into the marriage… and then my parents having us 3 additional children…We were all treated pretty equal…and we knew “our” parents loved us)… Their best friends lived barely a wave away. ( Even though we lived in the county on eight acres of land  my Dad had bought when he came out of the service… NAVY… we knew everyone along the road from one end to the other  )…

I can see them now, Dad in trousers, dress shirt and a hat ( I mainly picture my Dad in white overalls…a painter’s hat…and carrying his lunch box… He was a wallpaper hanger  )…and Mom in a house dress, lawn mower in one hand , and dish-towel in the other. (That describes my Mom to a tee… Printed house dresses… raising chickens …cooking like no one else could… cutting the grass… raising veggies and flowers)… It was the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress. ( Mom as well as Dad could repair about anything… I just told my husband today… I could repair the screen  in some windows we have… I’ve done it before… learning from Mom and Dad)… Things we keep. Dads with paint brushes, hammer, digging in the garden. ( Dad built two homes for us… with his own two hands and little help… I can’t remember him saying he couldn’t do anything!… He always tried! … His tools were kept in good shape… always put back where they belonged… Hammers… saws… nails… paint… brushes… You name it… and he had it!) Coming home tired after working long hours!… ( I remember meeting my Dad at his truck… carrying in his lunch box … and him kidding me in some way about whether I was a “baggy pants” or a “pesticator”… I always answered “pesticator”… No way was I a baggy pants!

It was a way of life, and sometimes it made me crazy … all that re-fixing, eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things away meant you knew there’d always be more.
( I swore I would use as much water as I wanted to when I grew up!… We had to have water delivered in a big truck and put in a cistern… because we lived so far out in the county… so water was used sparingly… And I have to say… I do water my flowers… let the water run over my feet and legs while I’m washing things down after cutting grass … take a long bath with the tub filled up with bubbles and I let my Grandkids play with the water hose when they are over)…

But then my mother died, and on that clear summer’s night, in the warmth of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn’t any more. ( My Mom died in January… winter… at the age of 98… She was the next to last of a line of wonderful strong women… Only a sister left when she passed out of 12 children… She had lived with me for 5 years until at age 93 she fell and broke her hip… Nursing home after that with my sister and I taking turns… every night putting her to bed) …Then my father died… all the help he gave, helping fix things will never be again! ( My Dad had passed 19 years before my Mom of a heart attack  … Only 79… but, had lived a rich full life… even at that… The funeral home was so full… that we were elbow to elbow… an awesome sight… and the love and memories flowing was just a pull at the heart! and yes… I wished for him many times for advice and his helping hand )… 

Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away too soon…. never to return. So, while we have it… it’s best we love it …. And care for it… And fix it when it’s broken… And heal it when it’s sick… It’s best to overlook the small things! (We always tried to make up if there were differences of opinions … we learned that early in life… and I’m sure it was from our parents)

This is true for marriage … and old cars … and children with bad report cards … and dogs with bad hips… and aging parents… and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it. ( My husband and I have been married 43 years… have two lovings sons…and three wonderful grandchildren… No!…it’s not been a perfect life… but, we loved hard… said we were sorry  many times… gave hugs and kisses to take the hurts away… helped each other get through what hardships we had to face)… Some things we keep. Like a best friend that moved away or a classmate we grew up with. ( I’m having my 45th High School Class Reunion in October… and thank goodness I stay in touch with quite a few… Of course there’s been many other friends… from work… from meetings I attend… from old neighborhoods…and some family members I feel are friends also)…

There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who are special… And so, we keep them close! ( I have these type of people in my life… aren’t I lucky!) …

I received this from someone who thinks I am a “keeper”… so I’m blogging  this to people I think of in the same way… Now it’s your turn to send this to those people that are “keepers” in your life.

Good friends are like stars  …. You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there. Keep them close!

Signs of Friendship…

Gift…

Have you ever had a day that you were glad you were “YOU!” ???

Well… the reason I feel so good … is that I have such a variety of wonderful  friends…

I call my sister and get her out of bed … Does she mind???… “No”, she says… as we immediately get to talking about this and that… We laugh… we discuss different topics… we talk about our kids… we are true friends… Yes, my sister but, friends…

I go to swimming aerobics… and I’m greeted by several ladies that I talk to at least a couple of times a week … “How are you today?”… and they seem to really care…

We chit-chat back and forth about the temperature of the water… the sun that wasn’t shining… the rescue by our little life guard  that ended up being… just a guy… playing around in the water… We have a new instructor… young and full of vigor… and we leave saying, “That was a good workout”…

The time was well spent… and the new friends I’m making are so sweet… It was just a good way to start the day…

I get home right when my teenage granddaughter Taylor, arrives… I still find it hard to watch her drive up in her little car … with that big beautiful smile on her face… A “Hi Grandma!”… and I melt…

We are on a higher level than we were a few years back… She is growing and maturing… We chit-chat like my lady friends… but this time it’s about boyfriends workinglittle brother and sisterher Mom and Dadmoving … (Mom and Dad have decided to buy another house) … I love having her as a “friend”… Because friends can talk to each other about anything…

She leaves and I get a call from a young girl that taught sign language in our classroom the last year I worked… Mindy was the interpreter for one of our Special Ed students who had hearing loss… and couldn’t talk…

I admired her abilities and we became friends… Me… more of a Mother figure… but, friends… She had called me  last year about the same time I recall and we pick up right where we left off… I encouraging her… and her telling me all about her life since the last time we talked… She’s married… going to school… changing her goal to elementary education  and loving it… looking for a house… I heard every detail… and loved it!… Why?… Because she thinks of me as a friend and that makes me happy

I then read a few blogs and my Facebook page  on the internet that I keep up with and chit-chat again… just a few words… but, keeping the lines of friendship open…

As I’m coming in from being outside helping my husband in the yard… the telephone rings … I check the number and know it’s my cousin, Vera who lives in Tennessee… She is on her way home from work which takes about thirty minutes… This is our time to talk (chitchat) at least three times a week…We get right to it!… discussing our day… exchanging ideas… relating news of each other’s family… We could talk for hours but, usually limit it to this time… Why?… because we are friends besides cousins… We know each other thoroughly… and can tell how each is feeling immediately… Friends are like that!… Even “cousin friends”…

This was just one day!… and it was full of happy thoughts… laughs… and contentment… Isn’t that a wonderful thing!… Praise!… is what comes to mind!… and  ED!

45+ Years of Friendship…

We were friends during High School… and have remained friends through long distance phone calls… Facebook… word of mouth…e mail…

Of course we’ve all changed… We graduated 45 years ago!… 1967 to be exact… and our 45th Class Reunion is coming up in October…

We’ve all married… and we all are still married to the same guys… We figured that was one for the record books!… We all have children… Peggy has a son… Leslie has two daughters and a son… Dorothy has two sons… Georgia has a son and I have two sons…We seem to dominate with boy offspring … That’s another common trait we share.

We have a mixture of grandchildren… pretty close in age with a few younger… and we all are so proud!

We met yesterday at Mike Linnig’s…

  

A seafood restaurant that’s down by the Ohio River in the southern part of Louisville… It was there when we were youngsters and Georgia thought it a good place for us to meet… and it was!… They have outside concrete tables under big ol’ trees …                                           Small wood screen houses if you prefer…                                                                                                                        … a larger meeting building for bigger groups… and of course the restaurant…

This is where we opted to sit… more like a sun room with air conditioning… We hit about 104 degrees yesterday in Louisville … So you see why we didn’t sit outside as we would usually do.

All that are able, will meet here again after our Reunion Dinner at a Hotel… on the following day… Dressy to casual … Take your pick…one or both…I liked that!… Options are good!

Peggy couldn’t make our little get together… due to her husband being ill We missed her!… Georgia came, but her husband had to work … Life goes on even if we do want all to attend… maybe another day… Leslie and her husband live in Winchester, KY… and drove down to be with us… They have children that still live here in Louisville…so they would get to see them later… Dorothy… our planner… and her husband came of course… We live in the south end  as we call it…and yes my husband and I came…

There were hugs and kisses …lots of talk and memories shared… of the past and present… No one recognized Leslie until she talked… She would get the “Most Changed” Award … Dorothy , we think has stayed true to herself in looks and mannerisms…We love that!… She would get the “Remain the Same” Award … Peggy wasn’t there… has changed a lot also… and, is still the same sweet person we remember her as… She would have to get the “Sweetest/Caring” Award … Georgia is still her little independent self and is our philosopher... I just love listening to her stories and watching her expressions… She would have to get the “Most Expressive” Award …and then there comes me… I know how I’ve changed… I used to be the quietest/shyest and would have received that award way back then… but, now “I Love Me” as our aerobic instructor tells us to say to ourselves… so I’m quite the “Chatterbox” and this will be my award to myself … I can always come up with an opinion and an answer… Just ask me!

Our husbands enjoyed themselves it seems by all the chatter coming from their end of the table… and of course us girls could go on forever…

It’s so nice to be able to reconnect after 20 years for some of us… and just pick up like it was yesterday… I call that true friendship

Peggy, Dorothy, Leslie, Georgia, Marilyn…

We plan on making this an annual little reunion… and Mike Lennig’s can remain the spot… It was “just right”

Weekly Photo Challenge: “Friendship”

Memory…

So glad to see my best friend Judy at my Surprise Retirement Party… She had a stroke and was paralyzed on one side for many years… so I was ecstatic that she was there!… We were “friends” for over 30 years.. She passed away after a battle with stomach cancer just this Spring……

Granddaughter ( pink / black Kitty ) with friends on Halloween… Nothing like friends to go Trick or Treating with…

Grandson, Carson ( yellow hat ) with friend in Kohl’s Department Store… Nothing like a friend to play being a cowboy in the Ladies’ Hat Department…