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Three of Life’s Events… In One Weekend!

Today seems like Sunday to me…

Not anything I HAVE to do…

but, Monday it is!…

I’ve encountered 3 phases of life in one weekend…

A Birthday… My oldest son turned 44…

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“Doug”

 

He likes just our immediate family to celebrate with him…

His Dad, me, brother/sister-in-law and his two nieces and nephew…

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Carson and Kennedy… nephew/niece

 

A cake was made by a nephew… who does this as his gift… to one’s he loves…

A huge Chocolate Homemade Cake… with Butter Cream Frosting…

One candle to blow out suffices…

I made dinner…

Fried chicken strips/ sauces

Mashed potatoes/ Gravy

Macaroni/Cheese

Slaw

Green Beans

Hot Rolls

Everyone enjoyed and ate hearty!…

Then… another event…

I attended a wedding of a great-nephew with his lovely bride…

The happiness of these sweet people was shown from beginning to end…

A beautiful bride… and a handsome groom…

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Bride and Groom

 

but, their smiles said it all!…

Her colors were a dark plum color and Fall colors embedded in the flowers…

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Beautiful Bouquet

 

The reception held outside and the weather was great for an October night…

The smell of wood burning in the huge fireplace outside penetrated the air…

Drinks/food in abundance…

A huge white tent with tables set with cloth tablecloths, napkins and handmade centerpieces… of the coordinating flowers that the bride carried…

The music was loud and dancing began

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next “Bride to be!”…

 

A photo booth with props for fun…

A wonderful tasting strawberry shortcake wedding cake + deep chocolate brownies and cupcakes…

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Desserts!

 

It couldn’t have been better!…

and then they left for New York City to explore THE BIG APPLE… as it is called!

and they will explore…

They have that drive for fun, adventure and free spirit…

and finally…

My 3rd Event…

A very sad one…  A life event we never want to encounter…

but, a part of life even more than birth, weddings/life…

Death!

A tragic death of a young man … a son of a good friend… that I worked with so many years…

A young man not even 20 yet… 19 years old…

Well loved, meaningful happy life… good parents… a lovely sister… and many friends…

That temptation to try something we know… we hear about…that is so dangerous…

A substance that is killing our youth every day…

A heroin overdose

Never doing drugs… before… but, evidently tempted to try “just once”…

but, then as this drug is so powerful in it’s effect.. have to try one more time…

Resulting in this young boy’s life being taken…

My heart aches so much as I went yesterday to the funeral home…

Hundreds of friends… family… in awe as myself… as to this loss…

The parents and sister enduring this pain which is beyond comprehending…

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Brother and Sister

 

A very long day… his mother relating wanting to just crawl under the covers and die herself… from grief and exhaustion…

but, the funeral is today…

and she has to remain as strong as she can for her husband and daughter…

Her life has been shaken like nothing else can…

Her sweet boy is gone…

His achievements will not grow any more… His smile and sense of humor will not be heard except in memories…

What could anyone have done???

Nothing!…

The choice is an individual’s…

It is their call…

and what will change this direction…

is only the choice you make…

This tragedy is being witnessed everywhere…

and all I can do…

is relate how seriously devastating this affects families…

So life has many stages…

and what we have to do…

is make good solid choices that will enhance our lives…

instead of end it!

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday Gratefuls: August 4, 11, 18, 25… 2013

Days slip slowly away…

Being busy doesn’t mean I’m not grateful

I see things every day and thank my Lord for them…

But, writing them down… sometimes doesn’t happen…

So catch-up time again!

August 4, 2013…

It is a bad week coming… My sister’s husband was going down fast… He had been sick for a long time…

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My sister is my Grateful… She shows such strength in doing her duties as a wife… but, mainly it’s her love that shows through…

Her love for her family… her husband and others…k3593382

Her love of her God… That has kept her going and not giving her more than she could bear…

August 11, 2013…

The day after the funeral of my sister’s husband…

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My grateful for all of the people who came to the funeral home… sent loving wishes… sent beautiful flowers… called… who gave of themselves…

What a blessing to see…

August 18, 2013…

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My grateful for a time to get away… laugh a little… cry a little… talk a lot… A day with my good husband who shows his love every day… and my sister a chance to unwind a little… because reality and every day life will seep back in quickly…

August 25, 2013…

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My grateful for my Little Family…

Visiting… eating together… watching a movie together… our chit-chat… catching up on weeks that had flown by without really seeing each other…

Gives my heart a full dose of love and fills me with thankfulness… that we care enough to want to be together…

So, I might be late in writing them down… but, the gratefuls are in me always!

I Learned Today…

I went to my first Jewish Funeral untitledtoday… I had no idea what to expect

I have found the we, as people who know nothing of another’s heritage…background…customs…habits…or state/country… can have very contrived thoughts u17133365concerning these matters…

What we have perceived as ideas in our minds are nothing like the real thing

I expected a long service… Actually it was about 20 minutes

I went because it was a very good friend‘s Father k9654546that had passed after battling cancer and a stroke…

If I met her Dad…it was many years ago…and only one time…The same with her Mother…

I knew they were good peopleloving peoplefamily oriented k1543574…because that was the way their daughter is…

I felt the love…the fun…the happiness…the pride cof0368…as she talked about them at times…

My friend knows no boundaries in picking friends… She accepts them as they are k6972014… and treats them with dignity… care… and love…

At least that is how I have felt all of the 25+ years I have been her friend nri0123

I found the funeral home… Walking in… I could see lots of people who had come to show their respects…mingling…talking quietly…and sitting around…

I wondered if I should have bought flowers??? k10039601

Should I have made a dish of food???k8245658

Should I have worn a dress instead of slacks???

Yes, I had a few questions running through my mind…cof1923

I knew my friend would just like seeing me and others there… and needed nothing else… Just that we let her know we cared… was all she wanted…

Her thoughts were her Mom… her daughter… her brother…and others that had come to be by their side at this sad time

There are a few things I noticed that were different

We sign a book to show our attendance… Whereas a basket with small cards k2852738that you signed… sat on a table…

We are quite boisterous at times… greeting people… talking a lot… reminiscing about the person that has passed… Whereas that could have been happening… but, it was so much quieter… and a little more solemn

We have a room full of food and drinks… where people sit and chit-chat… and have a full day of this before the actual funeral service the next day…

Whereas there were two hours of visitation and then the funeral service… all within about a 3-hour period…

There is an abundance of flowers at our services…surrounding the casket of the deceased…

Whereas no flowers are wanted… Maybe one simple arrangement ats0025 in the area… but, not to resemble other faith’s ceremonies…

I noticed the casket was a beautiful wood… simple, dignified… so lovely…

I looked around and noticed some of the traditional Jewish men wearing a Kippah (Kipa)… a flat disk-shaped black hat 800px-Black_Kippah… worn during prayer

The Rabbi (Cantor) was at a podium as we do k5153468… addressing the people who are attending… Reading from the Psalms k7889174Saying a prayer in Hebrew u13897531… and then also in English… Quite lovely in a singing voice

The Rabbi honored my friend’s father in a eulogy as we do… Expressing his character… his sincerity…his love for his family k9616981 … his love of his faith… A beautiful testimony to a man who lived for his family, friends and hs chosen Faith…

Evidently my friend’s father had been well-respected… loved… and was a true asset to his community…

The Menorah k7825287 was lit with a single candle… called the Shamashwhich is used to light the other candles during Hanukkah

My friend’s father had expressed that he was going to miss Hanukkah with his family … an important event he loved… so the Rabbi did this to fulfill his wish of celebrating Hanukkah with his family

I especially was touched by this gesture…

I passed on the trip to the cemetery which I feel is such a personal thing for immediate family k9199780… But, I have read that Mitzvah is performed… placing a handful of dirt or using a shovel to place a small amount of dirt x26741846 into the grave… and the ancient words of consolation are said…

“Ha-Makom yerahem etkhem b’ tokh sha ar aveilei Tzion u Yerushalayim“…

“May the omnipresent comfort you among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem

The family and friends then go the home of the family for Shiva… There… visitors are received… a light lunch of simple foods k0020984 … and traditionally they will be in mourning for 7 days…

I have really enjoyed learning the customs of my friend and her family… Traditions x18626449… are such a part of all cultures… and I was glad to be there and partake today… I send them my condolences as well… God Bless!