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Daily Prompt: Forgive and Forget?

Share a story where it was very difficult for you to forgive the perpetrator for wronging you, but you did it — you forgave them.
Photographers, artists, poets: show us REPENTENCE.

Oh, this is a touchy one…

I don’t know if you can say I was actually wronged… or just how I perceived things

I’ve only felt hurt in my life… by some things that my siblings have said… and some things they didn’t say

Being the youngest… I was always considered to be the “baby”  of the family

When I was small that was great!… but, when I started to grow up…

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Finished school…

Had several jobs…

Married…

Had kids of my own…

Dealing with problems…

Dealing with heartache…

I was still considered to be too young to make decisions at times… well, it seemed to me… all of the time…

My Mom chose to come and live with me when she felt she needed more help

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I had a child with a mental disability… bipolar disorder… but, thought… we would give it a try for her sake

She lived with my family for five years

and only had one incident with my son and his problem…

I thought that was awesome…

He watched my Mom when I had to work…

Cooking for her… getting her things… having conversations… their relationship grew!ama0002

My Mom  decided that he should get paid a little for helping her while I worked… An amount was set…  This only was done for a few months until she fell and went into a nursing facility

I could tell this was not liked by my siblings…

I was receiving money once a month too…

Mom’s decision again when she moved in with us…

During this time my husband was laid off from work for over a year…

So the extra was helping…

As I continued to work… My husband and son became the caregivers of my Mom… Not bathing and such…

but, looking after her during the day…

No one could have been more decent and caring…

My little family was changed during this time

My time was spent on Dr. appointments… bathing… food preparation… washing/drying clothes… medicine regiment… hair appointments… friends that came for coffee and snacks every day… dishes that were always in my sink… The extras you purchase for food, drinks, gasoline, trips here and there, having a listening ear, always having to be home when others were having fun…

I had made this commitment... but, my son and husband were committed too…

Our life was on hold…

I said my Mom was selfish one time… after she had left my home and had to be put in a nursing home…

I was hollered at in my facespoke to with anger I had never had to deal with… and told not to speak of Mother in that way ever again!…

She was mine… my Mom too… and I had her when others were going on with their lives… and had learned many things …

I only had meant that we… as her kids… should be able to have an evening for some fun without feeling guilty about Mom not seeing us for one night…

I left on that accord and went home…

I couldn’t even think that after all I had done… that these words could be uttered to me…

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I also have another sibling… who for some reason… doesn’t choose to love me the way I would like to be loved…

I have tried with all my heart to be nice… be caring… sending and making invitations that were never acted on…

I would send small gifts at Christmas for all of the family… I would try to remember birthdays and special events… making every attempt to go to anything I was invited to…

but, I still feel… I’m just not the person who they can be close to…

This hurts so deeply…

Being that I know I am a good person… I would be a good sister…

Well, I can’t write any more… tears are falling…

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My husband says I let people hurt me too much…

That I forgive too much…

That I will always be the one who turns the other cheek…

and he is right…

for I believe LOVE is stronger than anything… and I will have no regrets in treating others with respect… care… and continued yearning for a relationship that will probably never be…k11999706

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Matthew 6:14-15 King James Version (KJV)

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

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Happy Birthday Son

My oldest son turned 42 years old yesterday…

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Doug … had the prettiest curly hair…

with brother and our special puppy, Sugar…

We had celebrated with our little family on Sunday evening…

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Blowing out his ONE BIG CANDLE… beat putting 42 on the cake!

His Dad… me, his Mom… his brother… sister-in-law and his two nieces and nephew…

This is all he wants!

We are his world!

We make him happy!

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walking in park with nephew…

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so proud of niece graduating from High School…

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They kid a lot… telling corny jokes k13041725… play scratch tickets together… go to the River Boat Casino every now and then…

If his Dad needs a hand around the house … he is right therewith lots of advice!

but, he does know how to do so many things… has that knack of fixing thingsredoing things…

He buys and sells on Ebay3625v1-max-150x150 for extra money(he’s on disability) and does well at it…

He loves to collect items and knows what it’s worth by his investigating on the computer…

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Doug on right…

with Uncle visiting from Georgia… Rebellious years for sure!

I’m his partner in shopping at thrift stores… peddler’s malls…yard sales…

We have a common bond in loving older things… music… collectibles… movies…

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He seems to have lots of confidence in me… although I’ve had to be the “mean” one at times… in discipline… pushing him forward… making him do for himself!

The neighbor lady calls him the “supervisor”… because he loves telling others how to do things… and has great confidence in his opinions…

Most people who know him… love him…

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with cousin at her son’s wedding…

He has a natural ease in talking to all kinds of people…

especially people he feels has had a tough life

I imagine he can relate!

You would never guess… he suffers from bi-polar disorderP_culture_svg

He shys away from certain people at times due to their scrutinizing him …

He doesn’t go to some placestoo crowded… suffocates him and gives him anxiety…

Has a little paranoia… in what others think of him… what others may do… safety issues and doing right all of the time…

He would fight for those he loves with all of his might!

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Family is what’s important to him!

He is concerned of his looks and has recently lost around 40+ pounds… Looking good!

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Last Birthday…                                    3 months later at Christmas…

He is more content around me and his Dad…

He has become a wonderful person

He loves his nieces and nephew above all things…

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with Kennedy, Carson and Taylor…

Wants to do for them and wants them to succeed…

He’s achieved so much in his 42 years… more than he realizes… but, being his Mom I see the accomplishments

Happy Birthday to my first-born… my Doug!

Weekly Photo Challenge: Backward

All I seemed to be able to get were the backs of my Football Player Grandson, his Mom and Dad…

I guess they were too busy to look around…

Carson is always attentive to the coaches…

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Melanie is intent on getting some good photos of the team…

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and Brian is helping with the “Chain Crew”…

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Daily Prompt: Say Your Name

Write about your first name: Are you named after someone or something? Are there any stories or associations attached to it? If you had the choice, would you rename yourself?

Photographers, show us  YOU.

I was named Marilyn Kay… k6575224

I’ve heard a few stories about how my name was chosen…dyi0003

I was born on the same daysame hospitalrco0036 … of another little girl cousin…

I was born 3 hours before her… k4190806

From what I hear my Dad was not so good at watching anything to do with birthsFainting… right out! Out_Cold

Mom and my bigger sister from what I hear thought a neighbor’s great-niece was the cutest little girlk12843214 … and my sisterwho can be pretty persistentbegged Mom to name me Marilyn… this little girl’s name…

My sister’s name being Carolyn… made our names sound like twin names… maybe there was something to that too…x19209803

Then… my oldest brother who was in the Coast Guard 75px-US-CoastGuard-Seal_svg… sent my Mom a letter szo0433 wanting me to be called Donna Kay… if I hadn’t already been named… From what he says… a girlfriend at the time and of course he thought that was a beautiful name

Mom compromised and “Marilyn” stayed and “Kay” was added… making them both happy…

Evidently my birth was a little special… since Mom was 40 and Dad 41… and my sister’s and brother’s were all older… My sister being 6 years older… when I was born…

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Two Years old (1951) … taken at Renfro Valley… Kentucky’s Country Music Capital in Eastern KY

Daily Prompt: Childhood Revisited

Sure, you turned out pretty good, but is there anything you wish had been different about your childhood? If you have kids, is there anything you wish were different for them?

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My parents didn’t go and really very few of our family did… until my generation had children

Most all of our children have gone to college… and their children will absolutely go…

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I talked about it to my Mom… but, the thought of the unknown was pretty much not discussed… dougla0028s

There was the expense… for one thing… but, compared to today… it was nothing…sps0438

We all were to either get married have kids… and maybe work

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I was fortunate to get hired and work at the Telephone Company (Bell South) as a Long Distance Operator… and then an Information Operatorsfo0464

Just a test was required… as I remember… of about 2-3 pages… Basic common sense… reading… writing… math skills…u16545704

Positions that could be taught by others who had experience

After six years I had married k8117625 and had two sonsk5105796 … I felt they needed me at home and decided being a stay at home Mom would be my full-time job

Not a regret… but, I wanted more!

I wanted to either be a Teacher  sfo0159 or do something with Artk8413105

and to my amazementwithout college… I obtained a job in the Public School System after the boys went to school…

I kept a job as a Teacher Assistant with Special Education Students k0662770 … for 30+ years… being able to use my art skills… and received my full retirement

Yes, I feel my life turned out pretty good… but, the knowledge I have now… feeling I could have learned so much car0030 and the career I could have had… haunts me still… u15284580

Daily Prompt: Unknown Caller

You receive a call from an unexpected person. Who is it, and what is the conversation about? Go!

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It’s usually a Holiday…. Christmas… Easter… Thanksgiving… etc. …

This young lady used to be a cousin by marriage

She loved my Mom and Dad

After my Dad passed… she would call my Mom on every Holiday… to wish her well…

My Mom was so happy to hear from her…

It was such a treat!…k11011359

They reminisced about my Dad… and exchange news briefly in each other’s lives…

Not… a long conversation… just a “keep-in-touch” phone call…

Linda would say she had a list of names k12930689that she called … and Mom was a priority

I loved her for that!…

This went on for many years until Mom passed… at 98 years…

Linda said she just loved them… “my parents”…

It seems that they showed her love and care

Linda said her list was growing short… so I suggested she add some new names… and I would love it if one of them could be mesca0386

So… now… unexpectedly unknowing… the phone rings… and I’m blessedk0982803 by a sweet voice on the other end… saying, “Just thought I would say hi… and see how you and yours are doing”… k11313815

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Her… about her husband and their son/family…

and me, about my husband, kids, grandkids and others that she knew from the family…k11519603

Our last exchange was about a month ago… and I’ve promised to meet them at one of the last drive-in theatres k6791251 that is still in use in Georgetown, Indiana

I can’t wait!

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Daily Prompt: Perspective

Write about the last disagreement you had with a friend or family member — from their perspective.

This lady… I don’t even remember her name… who helps my Grandma by taking her to Doctor’s appointments… picks up her prescriptions… takes her to Wal-Mart to shop… uses her car and gas…was so mean to me the other day…

I had met and talked to her one time when she picked us up and took my Grandma and me to Wal-Mart to grocery shop

Anyway… she had picked Granny up from the hospital after some tests were run on her… and then taken her to Wal-Mart to pick up prescriptions as usual and to do some major grocery shopping…

You see… my Mom and I had been living with Grandma for a couple of months… and we had finally gotten an apartment…

Granny had loaded the back of this lady’s car up with things for us… The lady had to help my Grandma with her walker… and take the riding grocery cart back in the store… after loading all of the groceries… They were really heavy!..

Anyway… I got home from school to find I had forgotten my key… and my Mom and Grandma were not home!… I dare them!… I called both of them and wanted to know when they would be home??? … I was cold!… and didn’t want to wait long… so I said, “Hurry up!”…

The lady evidently didn’t realize that I was COLD!…

Because when she and my Grandma got home… she had the audacity to ask ME to help them in with the groceries!… I said, “No way!… I’m COLD and I’m going inside!”…

and I said to my Grandma, “You could have at least had the key ready!”

The lady said, “Will you just take some things in as you go?”…

“No way!”, I said…

and proceeded into the house…

The lady seemed to think I had done something bad…”I dare her!”… I thought…

“Who does she think she is!”… asking ME to do anything…

So my Grandma hung 3 big bags on her walker and made it slowly up the ramp… as the lady grabbed as much as she could carry and came into the house…

She said, “You really aren’t going to help your Grandma in with the groceries?”… “Like NO!”, I said…

“I’ve been waiting outside in the cold … My Mom will get them in when she gets home”, I said….

She acted like she couldn’t believe her ears… and proceeds to go outside twice more and bring in all of the stuff my Grandma had bought my Mom and me…

She even seemed a little put out… when I said, “You need to mind your own business!”…

My grandma says to her… Just leave the things inside the door…

And this lady says, “No way… I’m very capable of bringing in the groceries, unlike some people!”… I do believe she was talking about me!… I dare her!… and let her know I didn’t like what she was saying in the least…

I start to cry… She had hurt my feelings… I even ran outside and met my Mom coming down the street… and by the time this mean ole’ lady came out of Grandma’s house, my Mom jumped her butt good!… I had really laid the tears on… and made this women out to be the mean thing she was!… Who in the world does she think she is!… as my Mom is hollering at her as we drove up and slammed on our brakes… My Mom was really mad that she had made her little girl cry… The lady proceeds to say something like, “All I was doing was helping your Mom and your Grandma… and I’ve done it often… I just asked her if she would help bring in some groceries”…

The lady seemed to be upset with us… I don’t know why?… and just got in her car and left…I say, “Good Riddance!”… How could she treat me so bad?

I AM WOMAN!

In honor of Woman’s Day which is held on March 8th…

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I Am Woman

I began as a little baby girl…

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Smiling up into my Mother’s face…

Held by the strong arms of a loving Dad…

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Taken to a home with older brother’s and sister’s…

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Yes, I was the last born…

I was pampered…

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I was taught…

I was held…

I was spoiled…

I kept growing…

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I read…

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I drew…

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I played in the creek that ran behind our home…

Yes… I grew strong physically and mentally…

I made friends… lasting relationships…

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I was educated…

Loved every minute of schooling…

I wanted to be a teacher

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I wanted to be an artist…

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I kept learning…

I made some mistakes…

I was naive…

I was shy…

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I was still immature…

I dated… I fell hard for a guy…

I wasted three years…

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Seeing that I wanted more!…

I got a job… I worked hard and gave my best…

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I had been taught principles…

I had been taught respect…

I was learning that I was special and deserved more…

I met a man… full of the same desires and had been taught as me… how special people are!…

and he worked hard… serving his country… and

we married!…

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We had two sons…

He worked hard… and I as WOMAN… did the best I could raising kids… working…. keeping house… cooking…

ME being put on hold for a while…

Which is what women have to do sometimes…

My kids had their own problems… but, grew into wonderful men…

I worked with Special Kids for 30 years…

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I continued to learn…

to reach out…

I was no longer that shy, innocent girl …

I had become a WOMAN!…

I now stand by my man…

I love my sons…

but, I do for me now… in small ways… in big ways…

I am independent and strong…

although still a Mom and Wife…

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I AM WOMAN!…

as Helen Reddy mlQCH_OpFahxtrC-coTTe6A sings… back in 1975… when I was just coming into my womanhood…

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Home

In a new post specifically created for this challenge, share a picture that evokes HOME for you…

My Mom and Dad created a home full of love… family and friends…

A place we felt safe in…

A place we liked to be…

A place we wanted to come back to…

A place we knew was kept clean

A place we knew would have good food…

A place we could bring our friends to…

A place to play

A place to talk

A place to learn lessons

A place to explore

Yes… That’s what I think HOME is…

My Home was to be duplicated but, with my touch

It would take both my husband and myself to fulfill this task…

I fill my home with things I like…

and after looking around…

I found this is what my Home depicts…

A love for Family!

 

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Grandkids photos in album…

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Photo Wall in my computer room…

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A photo of my dog I had for 16 years…”Sugar”… and still like to remember her…

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Grandkids in different stages…

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I even have them on my computer screen… They make me smile and feel good every day!

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Early years… later years…

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My oldest Granddaughter and the little chicken she gave so many years ago…

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Even a friend knew where my HOME was… as she gave me this for a present one time…

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Favorite photo… Great ages for all!

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My husband Bobby…I call him mine… A happy day…

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Kids with their Uncle… I know how much they love him…

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My youngest son and wife…  A great combo!

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My son…”Daddy with his girls”

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and finally my Jill… She makes our Home…

by being her typical “cat self”…

and loves us unconditionally as we do her!

Daddy’s Poem

E-mail I would like to share…
Daddy’s Poem”

Her hair was up in a pony tail,

Her favorite
dress tied with a bow.

Today was Daddy’s Day at school,

And she
couldn’t wait to go.

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But her mommy tried to tell her,

That
she probably should stay home;

Why the kids might not
understand,

If she went to school alone.

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But she was not
afraid;

She knew just what to say.

What to tell her
classmates

Of why he wasn’t there today.

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But still her mother
worried,

For her to face this day alone.

And that was why, once
again,

She tried to keep her daughter home.

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But the little girl went to school ,

Eager to tell them all.

About a dad she
never sees, a dad

Who never calls.

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There were daddies along the
wall in

Back, for everyone to meet.

Children squirming
impatiently,

Anxious in their seat.

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One by one the teacher
called

On a student from the class.

To introduce their
daddy,

As seconds slowly passed.

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At last the teacher
called her name,

Every child turned to stare.

Each of them was
searching,

A man who wasn’t there.

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“Where’s her daddy
at?”

She heard a boy call out.

“She probably doesn’t have
one,”

Another student dared to shout.

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And from somewhere near the
back,

She heard a daddy say,

“Looks like another deadbeat
dad,

Too busy to waste his day.”

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The words did not offend
her,

As she smiled up at her Mom.

And looked back at her teacher,
who

Told her to go on..

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And with hands behind her
back,

Slowly she began to speak.

And out from the mouth of a
child,

Came words incredibly unique.

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“My Daddy couldn’t be
here,

Because he lives so far away.

But I know he wishes he could
be,

Since this is such a special day.

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And though you
cannot meet him,

I wanted you to know

All about my
daddy,

And how much he loves me so.

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He loved to tell me
stories,

He taught me to ride my bike;

He surprised me with pink
roses,

And taught me to fly a kite.

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We used to share fudge
sundaes,

And ice cream in a cone.

And though you cannot see
him.

I’m not standing here alone.

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‘Cause my daddy’s always
with me,

Even though we are apart;

I know because he told
me,

He’ll forever be in my heart”

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With that, her little
hand reached up,

And lay across her chest.

Feeling her own
heartbeat,

Beneath her favorite dress.

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And from somewhere
there in the crowd of dads,

Her mother stood in tears.

Proudly
watching her daughter,

Who was wise beyond her years.

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For she
stood up for the love

Of a man not in her life.

Doing what was
best for her,

Doing what was a right.

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And when she dropped her
hand back

Down, staring straight into the crowd.

She finished with
a voice so soft,

But its message clear and loud.

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“I love
my daddy very much,

he’s my shining star.

And if he could, he’d be
here,

But heaven’s just too far.

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You see he is an American
Soldier

And he died just this past year, ,

When a roadside bomb
hit his convoy

And taught Americans to fear.

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But sometimes
when I close my eyes,

it’s like he never went away.”

And then she
closed her eyes,

And saw him there that day.

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And to her
mother’s amazement,

She witnessed with surprise,

A room full of
daddies and children,

All starting to close their
eyes.

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Who knows what they saw before them;

Who knows what
they felt inside.

Perhaps for merely a second,

They saw him at her
side.

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“I know you’re with me Daddy,”

to the silence she
called out.

And what happened next made believers,

of those once
filled with doubt.

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Not one in that room could explain
it,

for each of their eyes had been closed.

But there on the desk
beside her,

was a fragrant long-stemmed pink rose.

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And a
child was blessed, if only for

a moment, by the love of her shining
star.

And given the gift of believing,

that heaven is never too
far.

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