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Breathing Again!

Bobby just left to take Doug back to where he lives… He doesn ‘t want me to call it “home”… because “here” will always be “home”… home-love-blue-background-rustic-painted-wood-word-spelled-out-metal-letters-heart-symbol-46747096

He kiddingly calls it the “resort”… palms-empty-idyllic-tropical-sand-beach-20104794

He has a great sense of humor…smile-good-clown-stock-photo-human-emotions-joy-31612331

He is alright with our situation…

I really like it… I wouldn’t have said that last December…

It was unbearable at the time to let him go and know I would never have him living here again…

But, the Bi-polar / Schizoaffective Disorder was at it’s worse… since he was diagnosed so many years ago…d-bipolar-disorder-concept-capsule-67662919

I thank God every day for this time now with the son I knew I had… but, had someone elses’ voice coming from his lips… and his actions imitating that of the Devil… devil-emoticon-15453240

I now have the best relationship… and he can breathe and function so well…

The manager of the facility and staff tell me all of the time that he is the nicest… most respectful… most caring person they have ever met…

They love him!…hearts-hand-12726817

I am so glad that others are seeing the guy that was inside all of the time… and he… hearing these words gives him more self-confidence and pride…

What any individual needs!…

We still do our thrift store looking but, not buying so much stuff anymore…

He is much more choosy with his purchases… and I am too…

He lives in a facility that houses young adults… older… retired… mental individuals that are able to do for themselves… and even Veteran’s… faces-crowd-3160791

He talks to all… and so do I… as I pick up and drop off…

Juanita wears bright red lipstick… senior-lady-145595  dyes her hair blond… about 70+ years old… and is the most caring lady I have met…

Always a kind word… a hug… and talking about whatever comes up…

Loves her hair fixed… and always with makeup…

Stephanie is probably 40-50 years old… Dresses neat as a pin… hair done also… and sweet smile and attitude…

Her cute dresses are her trademark… Loves her cigarettes though… redhead-flapper-girl-vector-illustration-image-retro-costume-party-invitation-vintage-postcard-art-deco-poster-mafia-31862838 so outside a lot…

Probably can get bored… so an escape of some kind is needed…

Jo-Jo is a guy that wears his pants up high on his thin body…

Loving hot wheels… which I have known to take him…purple-hot-rod-car-11966382

Just had a birthday and hinted at it about 100 times…

Roger loves coffee and (it has to be instant)… instant-coffee-12481558  due to fixing it for himself all of the time… and likes to do crafty things… like making cigarettes to sell for extra money… with his cigarette rolling machine…

Sally writes poetry and makes birthday cards for all of the residents… old-pen-letter-21221531

One man is deaf… but, can manage to try to talk faster than anyone…

Do I understand all of the time… NO!… but, he smiles at me anyway… and continues on…

There are always tales to tell and I see the relationships being built…

Food is home cooked and appetizing…

Clean!… and homey…

Extras bought all of the time for this big family…

Pizza parties…  emoticon-eating-pizza-27197239… cook outs… hamburger-cheeseburger-cartoon-character-grilling-chef-hat-hamburgers-hotdogs-over-charcoal-grill-outside-summer-39796486 …programs… visitors and speakers…

Games… snacks… movies… and your own area that is just yours…

When Doug leaves after being “home” a day or sometimes two… we leave with a smile… a full heart… knowing the turmoil we felt for so many years has finally come to an end… and we can breathe once and for all…woman-breathing-4412384just-breathe-16442885

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finish This #6

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Welcome to week #6 of FINISH THIS … are you ready for Valentine’s Day?

1. I celebrate Valentine’s Day by… putting up decorations in my house… buying my Grandkids a surprise… be it candy… money in a card… or something else fun… My husband and I have gone out to eat… exchanged small gifts… etc. … but, lately… a hug and kiss will do…

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2. My heart goes pitter-patter for… my Bobby still makes my heart do that!… Also Grandkids and my sons… can melt me in an instant… Even my kitties make ME want to purr… Kind words given to me can make me the happiest…

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3. When looking for romance, my best advice is… Don’t look!… Just enjoy life… and have fun… be yourself… and that TRUE LOVE will see the wonderful things you have to give… Let it happen naturally!

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4. My favorite love story (real or fiction) is… My own story could make a great one… but, fiction has to be “Dirty Dancing“… young and in love… music…nothing like it!… An Affair to Remember is a 1957 film starring Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr … The film is considered one of the most romantic of all time… and I totally agree!

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5. The best relationship/love/dating advice I ever received… LIKE the person you decide to marry… Like their morals, their honesty, their work ethics, their hobbies, their way of treating you… be best friends… and you will always be happy… Be able to retain your identity!

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45 Years Today!

Have you ever yearned for days gone by…

I had that feeling for a little while this morning…

The time I met my husband…

Oh, what care free days they were…k5365333

young…

working… having your own money…

no actual commitments…

dating and having that wonderful feeling of love in your tummy… I call it a butterfly feeling…

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smiles on faces…

hand holding…

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thoughts of a world that could not get better!

Kinda brings a tear to the eye… the love that wells up inside of you for that special person!…

I am so fortunate to have had “my love” for 45 years as of today…

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Married in a small church… Blissfully thinking of a life together

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thoughts of children, home, and everlasting happiness…

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I am lucky I guess… that even though we’ve had ups and downs…WE ourselves… have remained best friends… lovers… parents… grandparents and shared all together!…

We had a “Special Song” that still holds true today!…

“Love You More Today Than Yesterday”… by the Spiral Starecase!

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This morning … we hugged and kissed… holding each other for a while

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Remembering those days of youthful dreams

Knowing we still have the same feelings…

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#FWF Free Write Friday: Image Prompt

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Does this envelope hold a message for you or someone else? In the words of John Mayer… “say what you need to say…”

I met you when I was so young… k15126501

Immature…

Full of hope…

Love to give… k13240939

No worries…

Wanting freedom…

Ready to see the world…

We fell in love…

We went against some people…

Married before you went to War… hma0070

We wrote each other…

We kept our thoughts on each other…

I longed for your return…

You longed to return…k9479293

We reunited after a long year…

Made our way into the world…

Found our niche…

Work…

Children… bul0163

Ups…

Downs…

Family relationships…

Dealing with every day stress…

Growing our roots… k8763933

Building our home… jba0061

Raising our family…

We are still here…

Life is so interesting…

Bringing with it…

So many changes… k12501724

We are now turning gray…

We are not that youth…

We once were…

Our roots are still strong…

But our bodies are bending…k5983705

But, we are together…k13844820

We are one…

We belong…

To each other…

Happy… as we grow old together…dki0006

Still love you Babe…

Always will!

VVV Challenge

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The letter “V”…

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As soon as I read the prompt for the week was the letter “V” from “frizztext”…

I immediately thought of my cousin Vera…
Some “V” words to describe her are…
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vigorous… strong; active vmo0012

venturesome… bold; daring u13543456

variable… diverse  car0191

viable… take care of self  u20665558

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We have known each other since we were very young…
My first remembrance of her was when we played at her house around 5 years old…
I’m sure we were together sooner than that… but, I actually can’t remember…
I lived in the county… more like a country setting with a big yard… creek and woods…
She lived downtown… on a busy street… with a park nearby
I imagine we both loved the differences…
Kinda like the City Mouse and Country Mouse book…

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We got along pretty well… we definitely had different personalities…
Vera more of an action kid… more adventurous I would say…
Me… a coloring book / crayons kid… although I loved outside too…
We continued our cousin relationship off and on until we graduated from High School…
Then… she married… and I was working and dating
She then moved for a while… and when she returned to LouisvilleI had married… and she had re-married after a divorce…
We both had boys… She had one and I had two…
We became more like fast friends during this time…
and did most everything together
Kids played… dinners were eaten… and we talked for hours on the phone…
Then… she moves again…
and our lives were busy with our new families and kids…
Lots happened…
but, some how… we reconnected…
and I really don’t know how that happened…
Maybe it’s a cousin thing
Maybe it’s that we had become more like friends…
and when you are friends… it’s forever!

She still lives out-of-town but,
we now… talk most mornings for about an hour as she travels to her job… and I am getting up to start my day after retiring…
We never tire of each other’s conversations… Sometimes her talking and sometimes it’s all about me…

Husbands ask, “How do you have so much to talk about?”…
We visit a few times a year… and have spent many Christmases together… her and her husband visiting here… because of other family living here also…
I’m glad she is my cousin… but, I’m really glad she is my friend!

#FWF Free Write Friday: Beautiful People

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FWF prompt:

Tell me about a beautiful person you know…

My best friend…

My confidant…

My sparing partner…

My love…

My reassurance…

My protector…

My husband…

When we first met 45 years ago… in September of 1968…

I knew… he was a “beautiful person”…

Actually, I just thought he was “cute”…

He was polite…

He loved his family…

He was endearing…

He was honest…

He was serving his country…

Yes. “beautiful” to my eyes… Inside and out!

We’ve been through much…

had lots of joys…

lots of tribulations…

lots of passion…

lots of love…

and still do at this time…

Life is what it is…

but, having a “Beautiful” person to share it with… makes it an awesome one!

Sunday Grateful: 9/8/13 – I Have Chosen to be Kind!

I was sent this video via Facebook

It is worth watching…

Insight into how others are feeling when we encounter them every day…

Try to remember we don’t express to the world all of our problems…

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Sometimes we just seem rude…k4075729

Sometimes we just seem too busy… k13374662

Sometimes we just seem rushed… k5642324

Sometimes we just seem inconsiderate…k12897340

but, we are just people reacting to life’s situations…

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To My Sister

We lost one of our family members yesterday…

My sister’s husband

He came into her life… I would say… in the perfect moment

She had lost her first husband through death… brain tumor/heart… leaving her and her six children to be on their own… k2473211

She was not alone… many family members embraced these kids and her…

Loving them with all of their heart…

They seemed to become part of my own …

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Four girls… two boys… ranging in ages… I’m guessing here… from one in the Marines… so maybe 19… no, there were two already married… so maybe 20 or so… to one in elementary school… so maybe 5… maybe not in school yet…

So you see… so young… to have a daddy taken away…

But, my sister is a strong woman…

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Working… making ends meet… staying in touch with her family and her Bert’s family…

Curtis came into her life with a grin… and a slight limp of a leg…

And we knew he had been smitten!… He adored her!

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and took on the responsibility of being a Dad as best he could with rebellious teens and a woman who had lost the love of her life… her first husband…

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Carolyn met Curtis  at a Parent’s Without Partners dance… They were held weekly… and at that time… it was just to get out and be around others her age…

They were married after about of a year of on again… off again…

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This would be a big decision on her part to make …

With six children… and a new man in her life…

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But, they married… at one of her daughter’s homes… on Valentine’s Day

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Life has had so many directions… illnesses…kids…moving to a different home twice… his children accepting her…

But, it seemed their love began to grow more and more…

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The kids came to acceptt him as their Dad… and the grandchildren that came.. knew only him as their Papa

They clung to him… and loved him… with all of their being…

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Curtis has been a very sick man for most of their marriage…

but, my sister has tended to his every need…

He has had to have an amputation of a leg

heart trouble…and lately a lung disease and cancer

There are no words to describe all she has had to do…

A strong woman… an understatement for sure…

There will be no regrets that she did her best by both husbands…

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As a sister… we have talked much… we can get the day going through our conversations… no matter how hard!

As he lay dying in their home… she was still in charge

making arrangements that had to be completed… talking to everyone who came in to say good-bye…k9934085

Talking to Hospice help as they arrived…

He went quickly… surrounded by much love… and his wife… who had become his life

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Peace to you Curtis in your new life in Heaven

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and peace to you my sister… as you pull it up again… and become yourself again…

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Love,

Your Sister Marilyn

More Today Than Yesterday!

I met this guy when I was 19… He was 25

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I liked him immediately…

I saw good in him…

How do you see “good”?

Kindness…

Respect…

Caring…

Family Oriented…

Honest…

Hard Working…

Dedicated…

You see and feel these qualities in people… and I saw it in him…

We married on February 1, 1969…

after knowing  each other for only 5 months

and now it has been 44 years + 10 months…

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Thinking back at how young we were …

the ideas we had…

the goals we had…

the beliefs/ideals we had…

the faith we had…

the LOVE we had…

Our ideas were met and some changed…

Our goals were met and some changed…

Our ideals/beliefs stayed the same…

Our faith grew stronger…

Our Love deepened…

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I feel so fortunate to have found someone who isn’t perfectme neither!…

Who sometimes drives me crazy!… I do this to him also!…

Who surprises me at times… I can do this too!…

Who shares the same interestsThat’s so neat!…

Who seems to complete me… He says I do the same with him

Wishing you a Happy Birthday Babe

I love you More Today Than Yesterday!

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Our song by “The Spiral Starecase”

Came out in January 1969 right before we got married…

More Today Than Yesterday – by Spiral Starecase
I don’t remember what day it was
I didn’t notice what time it was
All I know is that I fell in love with you
And if all my dreams come true
I’ll be spending time with you

Every day’s a new day in love with you
With each day comes a new way of loving you
Every time I kiss your lips my mind starts to wander
And if all my dreams come true
I’ll be spending time with you

Oh, I love you more today than yesterday
But not as much as tomorrow
I love you more today than yesterday
But, darling, not as much as tomorrow

Tomorrow’s date means springtime’s just a day away
Cupid, we don’t need ya now, be on your way
I thank the Lord for love like ours that grows ever stronger
And I always will be true
I know you feel the same way too

Oh, I love you more today than yesterday
But not as much as tomorrow
I love you more today than yesterday
But only half as much as tomorrow

#FWF Free Write Friday: Quote Prompt

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“Surrounded”     by Marilyn Griffin

Surrounded by people…

Opinions are flying…

I look toward this ruckus…

Seems they are lying…

Surrounded by people…

I hear the voices…

I listen to words…

I have to make choices…

Surrounded by people…

They keep telling me…

I have my ideas…

Can’t they not see?

Surrounded by people…

I don’t like their sounds…

I will close my mind…

Or I will drown…

Surrounded by people…

I filter them out…

I’m wrapped in a love…

I have no doubts…

Surrounded by people…

I’ve become strong…

No one can penetrate…

I know right from wrong…